The long journey of homeschooling

The week between Christmas and New Year’s did not go well in our homeschool.  Many would say it was because we were actually doing school but the week before was worse because we took off and they were bored, bored, bored.  Our main problem is that we have an 11 year old in the house who thinks my rules are merely suggestions which he should take under advisement.  Of course, upon reflection, he always decides that my rules are not really good ideas and he can always think of reasons why they don’t apply.  He always wrong about why they don’t apply but he always thinks that they don’t apply in this particular situation.  Mainly because he doesn’t want them ever to apply.  Sigh.

Things are much, much better.  His attitude has changed and my attitude has changed since I have found out that so many struggle with boys at this age.  Knowing it is a stage helps me to not get so frustrated.  He still gets correction but I don’t feel like I’m banging my head against the wall so much trying to figure out how to communicate better with him.  The answer is that I can’t.   At the moment, he’s just not going to get it.  So until he does, he’ll just get lots of correction.

Things were so bad at one point that I looked up our local middle school to see where he needed to be in every subject to be enrolled. 🙂  That’s when I found out that we aren’t zoned to the middle school that I thought we were zoned to.  You know, when you aren’t looking at school particulars when you move into a house, you can really be clueless about such things.  But, I digress.

Anyway, one person posted a quote on a local homeschooling loop that has become my “words to live by.”  So for those of you who may be having a dip in the road, I post it here:

“Is that your plough leaning by the tree, and is it not too heavy?”

“It is heavy,” answered the Princess,” but I love to turn the hard earth
into soft furrows and know that I am making good soil wherein my seeds
may grow. When I feel the weight too much, I try to think of the
harvest”

from “Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm” by Kate Douglas Wiggin

Also, on Monday night, I went to a meeting of moms in our church who homeschool — they aren’t numerous but they are all wonderful.  We started talking about another homeschool mom who has finished her homeschooling journey and another mom said that she used to ask her how she did it and how she wasn’t intimidated and the response was this:  “I always pray ‘Lord, let it be enough.’ ”  So that is now my prayer.

Oh, and btw, one of her 3 boys has a PhD in astrophysics, another is studying to be an M.D. and the third is studying for his MDiv.  I would say that the Lord answered her prayer abundantly.

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3 Responses

  1. That is a GREAT quote (I have noticed it in your siggie), and a GREAT prayer. I am going to steal, er, I mean BORROW them. 🙂

  2. Since ya’ll had a fun experience with Benedict Arnold, I am going to use him as an example. Benedict Arnold became a turncoat because of pride and selfish ambition. He wasn’t getting the accolades he sought from America, so he went to Britain. He didn’t get what he was looking for from them either. How was he raised? Well, his parents sort of ignored him, his father was an alcoholic…basically he had no guiding influence in his life that was positive.

    In contrast is Lafayette. Actually, Lafayette was not making the best choices in life before he came to America. When he joined the Continental Army, he got a lot of adoptive brothers (like John Laurens), adoptive fathers (like Nathaniel Green, the Quaker and George Washington). Most notable, of course, was his adoptive father, George Washington, who loved him and influenced his life on many levels. At one point in the war, Lafayette sort of muddied up the diplomatic waters with the French army and George Washington did not fix it for him. He had Lafayette fix his own mess, yet continued to be a rock of support for him. Lafayette restored the mess he made and ended up strengthening the alliance and won more hearts to his side. Lafayette was who he was, because of the positive influences in his life.

    I have seen this pattern over and over. No one makes perfect choices growing up all the time. But they are influenced for better or worse by whomever is raising them. God is using you and your husband to powerfully influence your son for His good. When the Bible says “to train up a child in the way he should go” I don’t think the tense of the verb implies that it happens overnight. Instead, I think it implies that it is an ongoing influence. And in the process, I think God is strengthening our own fortitude and faith in Him. George Washington was an ongoing influence on Lafayette throughout his life. Hang in there and don’t give up. Keep your eyes on God and He’ll direct you in directing your son.

    Your quote is like this. Benedict Arnold is famous today for the harvest that his parents sowed into his life….one of neglect. Lafayette is famous today for the harvest many Americans, most notably George Washington, made in his life, and Lafayette is remembered with esteem and affection for all the good he did for others. I trust that your guidance with your son, filled with love, will be recalled by him as he walks down the path of life, even into adulthood. Keep up the good work!
    Blessings,
    Laurie

  3. Oh, I do love that prayer. As one who “gave up” with her 11 year old boy and has him happily in middle school this year, I wonder. But, he really loves it, which is a gift from God. So many kids don’t.

    I am going to use that prayer in another situation in my life, though! Or maybe more than one…

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